Be Glad You're Not Married to THIS Guy
Dr. Sheila's advice: The key is how and when you
tell her [ Mrs. Fowler ]. It is important here to stress to your friend your concern
for her welfare and happiness. Invite your friend out for coffee, tea,
or a stroll in the park. Tell her there is something very important you
want to talk to her about. Let her know how much you care about her and
how important she is to you. Then tell her that you have "noticed"
something. Tell her that you "noticed" that her husband [ Mr. Fowler ] doesn't treat
her very well and that concerns you. Ask her if she agrees with your
assessment. Give examples, if possible.
Be sure to NOT
husband bash. Don't call him names, etc. Just stick to your concern for
her. Decide in advance what support you can provide her and then offer
it. It maybe that you give her a book to read ("The Emotionally Abused
Wife" by Beverly Engel is particularly good) or the phone number of a good psychologist. You might offer to go with her to the
first appointment. Make sure your friend knows how serious this is and
how serious you are and that you are there for her.
There is a caveat I must offer here: Sometime the truth hurts and your friend may not welcome your comments or believe them. That's okay. You were a good friend sharing your concern with her. If she can't hear it now, maybe she'll be able to hear it later.
taken from http://www.momlogic.com/2009/03/stephen_fowler_wife_swap.php